Self Help Library

Self-Help Library

Welcome to the SMU Health & Counseling Center's Self-Help Library!   Below are books on common concerns that we see here in the SMU Counseling Center.  Also, please see our Internet Resources page for additional online information for these and other health & wellness topics

**Please note: The books and resources listed here are for informational purposes only.  and have not necessarily been pre-screened or reviewed by anyone at SMU.  Thus, SMU cannot make any guarantees, warranties, endorsements or recommendations of these books or the information within.



  • Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood through Adulthood. by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey

  • ADD and the College Student: A Guide for High School and College Students with Attention Deficit Disorder. by Patricia O. Quinn (Editor)

  • Survival Guide for College Students with ADD or LD. by Kathleen G. Nadeau

  • You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder. by Kate Kelly, Peggy Ramundo


Abuse Issues

      Emotional Abuse

  • The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing. by Beverly Engel

  • The Emotionally Abused Woman : Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself. By Beverly Engel

  • Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame. By Beverly Engel

  • Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse.  Gregory Jantz and Ann McMurray, 2009

  • No Visible Wounds:  Identifying Non-Physical Abuse of Women by Their Men. Mary Susan Miller, 1996

  • Soul Murder: The Effects of Childhood Abuse and Deprivation.  Leonard Shengold, 1989

  • Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused As Children.  Eliana Gil, 1988

Emotional Incest

  • Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to Do When A Parent's Love Rules Your Life.  Patricia Love, 1991

  • Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners. Understanding Covert Incest.  Kenneth Adams, 1991


Physical Abuse

  • Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse. by Paul Hegstrom

  • It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence. by Meg Kennedy Dugan

  • Healing the Trauma of Domestic Violence: A Workbook for Women. by Edward S. Kubany PhD

  • The Domestic Violence Sourcebook.  Dawn Berry, 2000

  • Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.  Lundy Bancroft, 2003


Verbal Abuse

  • The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse: Getting Off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life. by Albert Ellis and Marcia Grad Powers

  • The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond. by Patricia Evans

  • The Verbally Abusive Man. Patricia Evans, 2006

  • Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. by Lundy Bancroft


Sexual Assault & Abuse

  • Voices of Courage:  Inspiration from Survivors of Sexual Assault. by Michael Domitrz

  • The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. by and

  • The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse. by Wendy Maltz

  • The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse. by Dan B. Allender

  • The Rape Recovery Handbook: Step-By-Step Help for Survivors of Sexual Assault. by Aphrodite Matsakis

  • Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child. by Laura Davis


Adult Children of Alcoholics

  • Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. by Julie D. Bowden

  • Children of Alcoholics: Understanding the Effects of a Parent's Drinking on Your Life and Finding Ways to Heal the Hurt. by David Stafford

  • Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics. By Robert J. Ackerman

  • After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma. By Jane Middelton-Moz

  • Adult Children of Alcoholics. by Janet G. Woititz

  • The Complete ACOA Sourcebook: Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love. by Janet G. Woititz

  • Lifeskills for Adult Children. by Janet G. Woititz, Alan Garner

  • Self-Sabotage Syndrome : Adult Children in the Workplace by Janet G. Woititz


 Alcohol and Drug Abuse 

  • Controlling Your Drinking: Tools to Make Moderation Work for You. by William R. Miller and Ricardo F. Munoz

  • Over the Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide for Managing Drugs and Alcohol. by Patt Denning, Jeannie Little, and Adina Glickman



  • The Dance of Anger. by Harriet Lerner

  • Anger: How to Live With It and Without It. by Albert Ellis

  • Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control. by W. Robert Nay



  • The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook. by Martha Davis, Elizabeth Robbins Eshelman, and Matthew Kay

  • The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook. by Edmund J. Bourne, PhD.

  • Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. by Joh Kabat-Zinn

  • Master Your Panic and Take Back Your Life: Tweleve Treatment Session to Conquer Anxiety, Panic and Agoraphobia. by Denise Beckfield

  • When Panic Attacks: The New, Drug-Free Anxiety Therapy That Can Change Your Life. By David D. Burns,. M.D.

  • How to Control Anxiety Before it Controls You. by Albert Ellis

  • The Worry Cure. by Robert L. Leahy


Assertiveness & Self-Esteem *see also Shyness/Introversion below

  • Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Living. by Robert Alberti and Michael Emmons

  • Women & Self-Esteem: Understanding and Improving the Way We Think and Feel About Ourselves. by Linda Sanford & Mary Ellen Donovan

  • The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused - and Start Standing Up for Yourself. by Beverly Engel

  • The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome. by Harriet B/ Braiker

  • Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice. by James Rapson


 Bipolar Disorder

  • An Unquiet Mind. by Kay Redfield Jamison

  • The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide: What You and Your Family Need to Know. by David Miklowitz


 Body Image

  • The Body Image Workbook: An 8-Step Program for Learning to Like Your Looks. by Thomas Cash

  • The Rules of Normal Eating: A Commonsense Approach for Dieters, Overeaters, Undereaters, Emotional Eaters, and Everyone in Between! by Karen R. Koening

  • Making Peace with Food: Freeing Yourself from the Diet/Weight Obsession. by Susan Kano



  • Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life. by Jan Black and Greg Enns

  • Boundaries and Relationships. by Charles Whitfield

  • Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day. by Anne Katherine


 Co-Dependency & Love Addiction

  • Facing Co-dependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives. by Pia Mellody

  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. by Melody Beattie

  • Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness through Your Inner Child.  by Margaret Paul

  • Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships. By Susan Peabody

  • Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love. by Pia Mellody

  • The  Intimacy Struggle: Revised and Expanded for All Adults. by Janet G. Woititz

  • The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love. By Pia Mellody

  • Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change. By Robin Norwood



  • The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Depression: A Step-by-Step Program. By William Knaus EdD, William J. and Albert Ellis PhD.

  • The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Depression: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Move Through Depression and Create a Life Worth Living. By Kirk Strosahl PhD, Patricia Robinson PhD, et al.

  • The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance. By Matthew McKay et al.   

  • Feeling Good. by David Burns

  • Mind Over Mood: Change How you Feel by Changing the Way you Think. by Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky


Eating Disorders

  • Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide to Recovery. by Lindsey Hall and Leigh Cohn

  • Bulimia: A Guide to Recovery. by Lindsey Hall and Leigh Cohn

  • Eating Disorders: The Journey to Recovery Workbook. by Laura J. Goodman, Mona Villapiano

  • Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating. by Geneen Roth

  • Overcoming Binge Eating. by Christopher Fairburn

  • Making Weight: Men's Conflicts with Food, Weight, Shape and Appearance. by Arnold Andersen, Leigh Cohn, and Thomas Holbrook

  • Surviving an Eating Disorder: Strategies for Family and Friends. by Michelle Siegel, Judith Brisman, and Margot Weinshel


 Family Issues/ Dysfunctional Family Systems 

  • Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families. by John Friel and Linda Friel

  • Bradshaw On: The Family. by John Bradshaw

  • An Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal. by John Friel and Linda Friel

  • Learning to Say No: Establishing Healthy Boundaries. by Carla Wills-Brandon

  • Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life. by Susan Forward, Craig Buck

  • Compelled to Control: Recovering Intimacy In Broken Relationships. by J. Keith MIller

  • If You Had Controlling Parents : How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World.  by Dan Neuharth

  • Forgiving Our Parents Forgiving Ourselves: Healing Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families.  by David, Dr. Stoop, et al

  • Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You. By Susan Forward


 Parents & Loved Ones with Mental Illness/ Personality Disorders 

  • Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents. By Nina W. Brown

  • Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship. By Christine Ann Lawson

  • Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem. by Kimberlee Roth

  • Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissitic Mothers. by Karyl McBride

  • The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells. by Randi Kreger

  • The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder. by Randi Kreger

  • Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder.  by Paul T. Mason



  • How to Survive the Loss of a Love. by Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield, and Melba Colgrove

  • Coping with Grief: A Self-Help Guide. by C.A. Komar

  • The Year of Magical Thinking.  by Joan Didion

  • A Long Shadowed Grief.  by Harold Smith



  • How Can I Forgive You? : The Courage To Forgive, the Freedom Not To.  Janis Spring, 2004

  • The Forgiving Self: The Road From Resentment to Connection.  Robert Karen, 2001

  • Forgiveness is a Choice.  Robert Enright, 2001


Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual

  • The Intimacy Dance:  A Guide to Long-term Success in Gay and Lesbian Relationships. by Betty Berzon

  • The Gay and Lesbian Self-Esteem Book. by Kimeron Hardin

  • Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out. by Loraine Hutchins and Lani Kaahumanu

  • Coming Out Every Day:  A gay, bisexual, or questioning man's guide. by Bret Johnson, Ph.D.

  • The Gay and Lesbian Self-Esteem Book.  by Kimeron Hardin

  • Coming Out as Parents.  by David Switzer

  • Coming Out:  An Act Of Love.  by Rob Eichberg, Ph.D.

  • Now that I'm Out What Do I Do? by Brian McNaught


Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

  • Getting Control: Overcoming your Obsessions and Compulsions. by Lee Baer

  • The OCD Workbook. by Bruce Hyman and Cherry Pedrick

  • Brain Lock – Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior. by Jeffrey Swartz


 Pain/Health Issues

  • Managing Pain Before it Manages You. By Margaret Caudill

  • It’s Not All in Your head: How Worrying about Your Health Could Be Making You Sick—and What You Can Do about It. by Gordon J.G. Asmundson and Steven Taylor



  • Overcoming Perfectionism: The Key to Balanced Recovery. by Ann W. Smith

  • Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control. by Jeanette Dewyze

  • When Perfect Isn't Good Enough: Strategies for Coping with Perfectionism. By Martin Antony, Ph.D.

  • Present Perfect: A Mindfulness Approach to Letting Go of Perfectionism and the Need for Control. by Pavel Somov

  • Never Good Enough: Freeing Yourself from the Chains of Perfectionism.  Monica Ramirez Basco

  • The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance. By Sharon Martin MSW LCSW

  • The Perfectionism Workbook: Proven Strategies to End Procrastination, Accept Yourself, and Achieve Your Goals. By Taylor Newendorp MA LCPC

  • The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive. By Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer

  • How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism. By Stephen Guise

  • The Perfectionist's Handbook: Take Risks, Invite Criticism, and Make the Most of Your Mistakes. by Jeff Szymanski



  • Getting the Love you Want: A Guide for Couples. by Harville Hendrix

  • Keeping The Love You Find.  by Harville Hendrix

  • Real Love. by Greg Baer

  • Reconcilable Differences. by Andrew Christensen and Neil S. Jacobson

  • How to be an Adult In Relationships: The 5 Keys To Mindful Loving. David Richo

  • The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work. John Gottman PhD

  • Creating Love: The Next Stage of Growth. John Bradshaw

  • The  Intimacy Struggle: Revised and Expanded for All Adults. by Janet G. Woititz

  • The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change In Key Relationships. Harriet Lerner

  • The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love. By Pia Mellody

Co-dependent, Abusive, Destructive Relationships

  • Co-Dependent No More.  by Melody Beattie

  • Destructive Relationships.  by Jill Murray

  • Do I Have to Give Up Me To Be Loved You?  by Jordan Paul and Margaret Paul

  • Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love.  by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller

  • The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome.  Harriet Braker, 2001

  • How to Break Your Addiction to a Person.  Howard Halpern, 1983

  • But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships.  Jill Murray, 2000

  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  Randi Kreger, 2011

  • The Abusive Personality, Second Edition: Violence and Control in Intimate Relationships.  Donald Dutton, 2007

  • The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags: Relationship Warning Signs You Totally Spotted... But Chose to Ignore.  Natasha Burton et al, 2011

  • "Not to People Like Us": Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages.  Susan Weitzman, 2011


 Shyness, Introversion & Social Anxiety

  • The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World. by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D.

  • Ouiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. by Susan Cain.

  • Introvert: Why your Inner Life is Your Hidden Strength. by Laurie Helgoe, Ph.D.

  • Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming Your Fear.  by Martin Antony, Ph.D.

  • Shyness: What it is, What to do About It. By Philip Zombardo

  • Overcoming Social Anxiety & Shyness: A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques. by Gillian Butler.

  • The Mindful Path Through Shyness: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Help Free You From Social Anxiety, Fear and Avoidance. by Steve Flowers, MFT



  • No More Sleepless Nights. by Peter Hauri

  • No More Sleepless Nights Workbook. by Peter Hauri

  • Say Goodnight to Insomnia. by Gregg Jacobs and Herbert Benso



  • Trauma and Recovery. by Judith Herman

  • Healing From Trauma: A Survivor's Guide to Understanding Your Symptoms and Reclaiming Your Life. by Jasmin Lee Cori

  • Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. by Peter Levine and Ann Frederick

  • Life After Trauma: A Workbook for Healing. by Dena Rosenbloom and Mary Beth Williams

  • Necessary Losses.  by Judith Viorst

  • Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics.  by Herbert Gravitz

  • The Courage To Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse.  by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

  • The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life.  by Patricia Love, Jo Robinson

  • Trust After Trauma  by Aphrodite Matsaki


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